In my culture divorce is not as much as a taboo. With Somalian women, if you're not happy with the guy then you can leave. One thing I learnt being around certain women is that if you get married make sure you know who you are outside of that title of 'the wife', because after a while you are just known as the wife, so and so's wife, the mum of x, y, z. I need to provide for myself before I'm ready. There aren't a lot of advantages for women in marriage.
"One thing I know: you can only be yourself and express yourself, the best you, in a safe space. I suppose when you are in that safe space with the right people around you then those things that are perceived as negatives are then perceived as positives."
"I'm too much by society's standards but I feel like they're too little and I'm tired of letting people, who don't have the balls to live their lives to the fullest, tell me that I'm not good enough because they are too small."
"When someone says a kid is 'too much' of something they can't and shouldn't change. Stop saying those little things because that's where it starts. It's all those tiny building blocks that form a life."
"I was told that I 'think too much' and I thought, ok, maybe I do overthink? But then it made me angry because I think we should think in every possible way you can. There is no over thinking, it's impossible to do."
"I am glad that I've got my PhD. If anything or anyone is going to take me seriously it's because of that, that's my weapon. Wherever I end up I've still got my education and something to be proud of."